Here’s another technique for dealing with our friend failure. We all fail and we all make mistakes. But those mistakes can’t crush you. They are all part of the process. The process of learning.
Stop saying, “if only I had done this or that.” Stop, “I should have, I could have, etc…” These are known as subtractive thinking. Use additive thinking. Additive thinking focuses on how you can make an improvement or find a solution for the next time. Subtractive thinking reinforces the mistake and additive thinking introduces a positive solution that can be used in the future.