Fuck Women, Marry your Art

I am speaking for myself, yet I imagine someone else could relate to this too. I studied art in university and I had a good friend named Ken Kozchnitski (spelling?). And near graduation we would talk about art and about being artists and about the dream of being a self employed artist. And the one thing that he said that I remember was that, “You have to marry your art.”

You have to commit to it. You can’t have a backup plan. And in the words of Seth Godin your “art” can be a number of things (see below). It isn’t just limited to fine arts, performance arts, etc.

I am thinking out loud now and well, primarily talking to myself. It’s about wanting something more than a woman. Something more than getting laid. It’s about investing in yourself and not in someone else. Why not direct your frustrations towards something more meaningful?

You got to get on to the big stuff. See the big picture and your place in it. Why am I here? You answer that. If you answer there’s no meaning to life then well that’s how you see it. And that looks a little grim to me. I remember a quote by the painter Francis Bacon that basically said “meaning” is what you give it.

Fuck Women, Marry your Art

This could be interpreted in a number of ways. Am I hurt? Rejected? Sure I have been rejected. So what are you going to do? Stop investing in women/someone else. Invest in yourself. Invest in what you know you can control and do.

I came across the MGTOW on the web recently. And what I read was interesting. Marriage is pretty good for women. The courts and law systems rule in their favor. Watch the underlining themes in some popular American movies and in television and there are a lot of themes where the women is in control. She’s the boss and she’s going to get what she wants. The man is there to cater to her.

“I love Jiu Jitsu more than my wife”, said my Jiu Jitsu teacher. And I bet some of you – most likely female, think that there is something wrong with that. However, that was the funniest and most authentic sounding thing I ever heard him say. That’s passion.

I know a lot of women who judge me for what I am and what I do and for what I don’t have (lots of money). I am an artist/street performer and proud of it. However, I know there are some women out there that basically compare me to a bum. Like some before who said, “Why don’t you get a job?” Bad advice, at least for sum. It’s great advice if you want to be like everyone else.

The truth is most people don’t know what they want. Most people just think like everybody else. And sometimes that’s fine and well it’s easier, but when it comes to what you are going to do with your life, you should listen to yourself and not to others.

Like the women I met today who said you can’t do that (street performing) for the rest of your life. I said to her that reminds me of one of my favorite quotes by Eric Sermon, “Don’t let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do.”

I can make art for the rest of my life. In fact I will make art for the rest of my life. And you can keep your job working for someone else (and making them rich) in the rat race, but I am going to keep working on my art and investing in myself.

“To marry is to halve your rights and double your duties.” – Arthur Schopenhauer

Check out Seth Godin’s book, Lynchpin

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